We've all done it. And I'm guilty of it myself. What am I talking about?
Wishing it away.
Its something we shouldn't do..but sometimes it just can't be helped. Human nature is to blame, I guess.
You are still wondering.."What on earth is she talking about?".
Those of us with kiddos..especially littles ones. There is a tendency to want them to grow up. To do things they aren't able to do just yet. Like crawling, talking, walking, running, going to school. The list goes on and on.
You know what I'm talking about now!
We shouldn't want to 'wish this time away' in their precious lives. Being content with where they are now..in their babyhood..toddlerhood..tweenhood..where ever they may be right now. Be content. Even the Bible mentions how we should be content.
Hebrews 13:5 ~ Let your conversation be without covetousness; and be content with such things as ye have: for he hath said, I will never leave thee, nor forsake thee.
I see so many moms..especially new moms..counting down the days until they can wean their babies..or wean them from the bottle. Or the sippy cup. I could list and list things that we can't 'wait' for them out outgrow and become more independent.
But you know..right now is when they need us. They'll always 'need' us..but when they are little..they are solely dependent on us as parents..for everything. I'm not saying weaning and letting them grow up is a bad thing. Of course they need to grow and learn how to do things on their own. But its not something that should be forced. Especially when your child isn't ready.
After all..they are only babies once.
Even though my Makayla is 14 months old now..and not walking..I'm ok with that. She'll do it when she's good and ready. She still likes for me to feed her..but you know..she can feed herself too. When she doesn't want me doing it anymore..she'll let me know. We still nurse..but only once a day now. This time last year it was a round the clock thing with nursing. So you see..she's slowly let me know over time she needs it less and less.
Don't wish your baby's 'baby-ness' or toddler's 'toddler-ness' away. Before you know it they will be grown men and women with their own families and you'll wish you had this time back for yourself again.
I couldn't agree more. My son is 5 months old right now, and I am soaking it all in. She is a beautiful girl.
ReplyDeleteI like how peaceful you are with everything. I was especially touched when you said she's 14 months old and not walking, and you're ok with that. Most of the times the people around us are the ones who discourage us so much as they compare our kids to theirs, and they can really make you feel terrible, as though your child has a SERIOUS problem. And many times we end up crying and panicking. It's happened to me alot (first time mom), but right now, I've learnt to be happy with what I have (my son is 15 months). Every kid is different, and at the end of the day, I trully just thank God for the gift of motherhood. I think that's all that matters. Gratitude to God. Thanks for sharing.
ReplyDeleteHey Melanie, you have taught an important lesson to not avoid the enjoyment of today. One should always enjoy their kid's current time and not making them hurry to grow up!
ReplyDelete- Herman Swan