I'm following along at Callie's blog today as she is doing a series of weekly posts dedicated to friendship. Who doesn't love that, right!? So I thought I would out with a post on my best friend and how we met, what makes our friendship work, etc.
I didn't meet my best friend at school. Or in college. She doesn't even live in the same town as me. Or even the same state, for that matter (but it would be REALLY cool if she did!). We met, the unconventional way, you might say. I met MY best friend ONLINE!
Yes..you read right!
My best friend and I met 'accidentally' you might say, way back in 1999. I put up an ad on Christian Pen Pals looking for some friends..some good friends. I had friendships in high school..but they just didn't work out once we got out of school. I was looking for a more meaningful friendship..one where my friend and I would share one common bond (which is what was lacking in other friendships I once had).
That is, a love for Jesus.
I yearned for a friendship where I could openly share my love for Christ and where we could share in the same joy and passion for our Lord and Saviour. I also was looking for someone who was wanting to be a 'true' friend to me. Not a 'here one minute and gone the next'...or 'my way or the highway' type. Been there..done that.
And thus entered my best friend, Wendy!
Meeting her and being her friend has been the best thing ever! Our friendship just works. We started out emailing. Then chatting online (chatrooms). A phone call (or few) then led to our first face to face visit. Ready for this one?
My wedding was the first time we met!
And you know what..it wasn't awkward. It was like we'd known each other for a lifetime. We just talked and had a good time. It was awesome!
Of course, once I was living the 'married life'..things changed a little. We kinda got on a schedule though and figured out what worked (as far as staying in touch) and what didn't. We just rolled with the punches, so to speak, and over the years have met up with each other several more times. To say I look forward to her visits is an understatement! As soon as we know we're going to see each other again..I think we both definately are counting down the days! She visited us this past fall and was able to see Makayla for the first time. What a blessing!!!!! It was great to see her..and to see her with my baby..to see me as a mom..and for her to see our new home (it had been about 3 years since we'd seen each other prior..so she hadn't seen our new place).
But most of all..what it all boils down is we share a deep love for God. We can share that anytime with one another. And yes..we've shared heartaches over the years..cried with each other..laughed tears of joy..we've fought (gasp!)..and made up (so thankful we did). I couldn't imagine my life without her being a part of it honestly. When I need to go to someone for something or just to talk..she's the one I go to. My only peeve is that she lives so far away!!!!! Else we'd definately spend more time together for sure cause we always have such a good time!
Since becoming a mommy myself..Wendy definately is someone I can turn to for advice. Not because she is a mother herself (though she will be a great one one day!) but she has cared for and continues to care for children. All her adult life she has had a hand in babysitting, helping raise kids, working in daycares, etc. You can definately see the love for children in her eyes.
Even though our lifestyles are a little different..we can still relate in alot of ways. I think thats a major key in friendship..is to be able to relate to each other and what the other is going through. Your lives don't have to be exactly the same..like being the exact same age..both married or both single..both with children or both without..have the same career..etc. Wendy and I have none of these things in common..yet we are able to relate to one anothers lives in a crazy fantastic way.
All in all..I'm so thankful for my best friend. She's the best friend a girl could ever ask for and I couldn't have ever picked a better one. I'm glad we have so many things in common..especially our love for God. I think thats what keeps our friendship so strong after all these years. :-)